This is probably the only article you will need to understand and eliminate narcissists from your life once and for all.
What is Narcissism? – We must begin by saying that for there to be a narcissist there must be a person who considers themselves a victim.
The purpose of this article is not to blame or shame anyone but to empower ourselves and identify our own power when it comes to relationships with others; and identify when we consider ourselves victims and allow the victim treatment from someone we consider a narcissist.
The reason why the narcissist chooses us is because he or she knows what kind of person will allow this treatment. It may be that our personality is humble, or even more so that we identify ourselves as a nice or shy person.
Lack of self-esteem, lack of self-love is what allows narcissists to treat us as victims or even more, it is what allows us to let ourselves be treated as victims.
So from now on I invite you to identify those occasions in which you consider yourself a victim and act as such. Remember that there are no victims, there are only people who have not identified their power in interpersonal relationships.
Now, since we are talking about the victim, then it is good to explain what really happens with narcissists.
The presentation of Narcissism in people can vary from one relationship to another. That is, a narcissist can be narcissistic with one person and behave completely differently with another. So it is good to understand that narcissism is a personality disorder that has no cure. Personality disorders cannot be cured. Which means that these people do not change.
Why don’t they change? – To change you have to recognize that there is a problem, which, if you know narcissists, you may know that they do not admit that they are wrong. Narcissists believe that there is nothing wrong with them and do not seek help to change. They do not process emotions like other people. In short, it is a complicated personality disorder and it is not our job to want to change them or to want to help them. The idea is to understand this dynamic and the power that we have to identify these people and the occasions in which we allow these people to victimize us.
So it is our job to understand this and establish healthy limits with ourselves to avoid acting like victims with narcissists. Understand that there is nothing wrong with narcissists, this is their way of being and they are not going to change. We are the ones who have to understand our power in every interpersonal interaction in which we are with others and understand that we are not victims therefore we should not behave as such.
Remember
Everything you want in life begins with you.
Until next time,
Mercedes.
